Day 3 in the platitude series. I like these platitudes because they cross the line. They cross the line between being fluffy and being meaningful. They cross the line between being about improving us as parents, and improving our kids as well. So listen and decide for yourself.
Todays lesson is on misplaced expectations, and I think this is important because life doesn’t get easier as we get better. So learning to live with disappointments is important.
The biggest disappointments in life are often the result of misplaced expectations. – When we are really young our expectations are few, but as we age our expectations tend to balloon with each passing year. The key is to help your child understand that tempering unrealistic expectations of how something “should be” can greatly reduce unnecessary stress and frustration. With a positive attitude and an open mind, we often find that life isn’t necessarily any easier or harder than we thought it was going to be; it’s just that “the easy” and “the hard” aren’t exactly the way we had anticipated, and don’t always occur when we expect them to. This isn’t a bad thing – it makes life interesting, if we’re willing to see it that way.
And I think back to a lesson from one of the world’s best investors, and he said this about his own life, “When I did it better, the struggle never became easier”. And I think that’s important to realize. This is a guy who has mastered Wall Streeet – after a big blunder or two, and who we would think of as successful. And even he doesn’t have a carefree life.
In conclusion, this one is hard. How do we impart the wearisome knowledge that life is continuously hard but to keep their chin up? I’m not so sure, but when things go wrong for them, acknowledge that while what they expected to happen, didn’t – that life often times provides a window to open when a door gets shut.