Day 2 in the platitude series. I like these platitudes because they cross the line. They cross the line between being fluffy and being meaningful. They cross the line between being about improving us as parents, and improving our kids as well. So listen and decide for yourself.
Everything is hard before it’s easy, and we get stronger as we go. – One of the best things you can do for your child as they grow is to let go and allow them to do things for themselves, allow them to be strong and responsible, allow them the freedom to experience things on their own terms, allow them to take the bus or the train and learn from life firsthand – allow them to be better people, allow them to believe more in themselves and do more by themselves. Journeying through life on your own two feet is a learning process – you become stronger as you go. It’s like a little girl who struggles to find her way home from school without her parent’s help – doing it the first few times is daunting and scary, but in the long run she’s safer and better off having learned the way.
And for me, it’s a constant game of pulling back my hand from reaching in and helping. Like literally, reaching in.
An additional benefit for kids is confidence on top of this. That’s what they don’t mention. Kids who do, are confident.
And the benefit for us is a more relaxed lifestyle. A life where kids get themselves ready in the morning and we don’t have to do all of our things, and theirs. But there’s something hidden in the back of our heads as parents too that’s fighting against this transformation. And that is, ‘we like to help our children, and we want them to be dependent on us’. It’s something that’s not often talked about. A sort of taboo. But honesty is the best policy and asking yourself, ‘to what degree do I like my children dependent on me?’ is a great place to start. Everyone has a varying level of this, so don’t feel ashamed. Just try to answer honestly. Remember – everything is hard before it’s easy.