Welcome, I’m your host Matt
Over the next few days I am going to take on a few phrases that may seem like platitudes. So I’m calling this the “platitude series”. I like these platitudes because they cross the line. They cross the line between being fluffy and being meaningful. They cross the line between being about improving us as parents, and improving our kids as well. So listen and decide for yourself. Decide if they are something you already do and can improve upon. Decide if they are a missing link in you or your best friend’s parenting styles. And talk with your friends about them. Better yet, share this with your friends, we’d love to spread our mission of helping parents create a better world through their children.
Todays platitude is “Learning how to think is far more useful than what to think.”
Here’s an excerpt from a parenting article. (Link in the show notes).
Learning how to think is far more useful than learning what to think. – A big part of your life is a direct result of the decisions you make; if you don’t like your life for some reason, it’s time to start making changes and better decisions. And the same is true for all of us, including our children. It’s crucial that our children gradually grow to understand that THEY must learn to make good decisions for themselves, without us. Parents can only guide by example and put their offspring on the right path, but the final forming of a person’s character and life story lies in their own hands. You can walk beside your child most of the time, but not in their shoes. And someday, when you’re not around, they’ll come to a fork in the road that forces them to think for themselves. Which is why it’s important to teach your child how to think, not what to think. (The remaining points in this series will help you do just that.)
So the question to me is ‘are you becoming the type of parent that will allow this to happen?” I see people who are blindly charging into the parenting jungle. All full of gusto, good intent, and a lot of bravery. I respect all of those qualities. But charging into the jungle without a map is a poor idea even if you’re as big as the Rock and and brave and collected as Sullenberger. The end point will be letting go, and letting your child make decisions for themselves.