Yesterday we learned that there is a group of humans out there that spend all of their time outdoors, live off the land, and raise their children in a 180degree reversal of us. And they turn out to do just fine. They have cultural bonds that we don’t, and I can’t say if they’re happy people or not, but I am amazed that you can walk around the planet and find such different thoughts and actions to what we think of as our ‘baseline’
So what was this lesson 2?
Lesson 2 was storytelling. Part one was not lashing out in anger. The article says,
"Shouting, 'Think about what you just did. Go to your room!' " Jaw says. "I disagree with that. That's not how we teach our children. Instead you are just teaching children to run away."
So how can we discipline our children without showing them that we’re serious? In some ways, our culture requires our children to grow up quickly – too quickly, and while we’re justifying our actions with our children, intuit children, like all others, simply get the message – even if it’s from a silly or even downright lie of a story.
Here’s an example from the article.
“how do you teach kids to stay away from the ocean, where they could easily drown? Instead of yelling, "Don't go near the water!" They tell a special story about what's inside the water. "It's the sea monster," they says, with a giant pouch on its back just for little kids.
"If a child walks too close to the water, the monster will put you in his pouch, drag you down to the ocean and adopt you out to another family," Jaw says.
You and I sit here and say, I can’t lie to my child. That story is ridiculous, who would believe it?
A child would. But what they hear in this story is “don’t go near the water”. You said, “There’s a monster”. They heard, “Don’t go near the water”. Kids see things differently.
So next time you have a problem with listening, use this one:
To get kids to listen to their parents, there is a story about ear wax, says film producer Myna Ishulutak.
"My parents would check inside our ears, and if there was too much wax in there, it meant we were not listening," she says.
Say it in a fun and playful voice, not a demeaning one – and your kids will get the lesson.