Todays episode is a do and don’t list.
The idea is to help you be on the same page as your partner because it’s key to parenting.
So many keys – kids won’t play mom and dad against each other. You’ll back each other up and celebrate successes together. You’ll fight less and kids will have less stress by not seeing all of that. The list goes on but let’s get into the dos and don’ts.
Check out our show notes for the great list by Alyson Schafer.
- Expect Parenting Differences:
- Maximize the Opportunity of Differences: If one is better at getting bedtimes to go smoothly, and another is calmer helping with homework, divide your tasks up to take advantage of those different strengths.
- Support Each Other: Even if you don’t see eye-to-eye, you should support the actions of the other parent.
- Whoever Starts the Discipline – Finishes the Discipline: (I’m guilty of jumping in for sure)
- Talk Later: If you didn’t like how your partner handled a situation, discuss it at a family meeting or when you are alone.
- Undermine the Other: If mom said “no” to treats today, don’t undermine her by sneaking a treat to your tot when mom goes to work.
- Fight: If you disagree, talk about it in private after the fact.
- Pity or Compensate: If one parent is harsh, don’t feel sorry for the child and compensate by “making it up to them” by being extra-lenient.
- Worry About Consistency Between Parents: Kids only need consistency in each parent’s own behavior – that you act consistently from day to day, not that you act the same as your partner. Are your reactions predictable? That’s what matters. They can understand, “Mom doesn’t allow splashing in the tub, dad does.”