Welcome, I’m your host, Matt. As it’s New Years Day here, I think a little new year’s resolution discussion (related to parenting) is timely. Now I, and every other human younger than 65, are reading the news. Constantly. One of the articles that populated for me was Bill Gate’s last blog post of 2018. I’ll link it in the description, but what I found captivating on it was that he literally sits down and writes out his answers for what went well in 2018. Most people respect Bill Gates enough to say that he has earned it, but also think he’s kind of lucky too. And we tell ourselves, “I could write a year end review and propose some 2019 goals”. I could do what successful-rich people do.
But do you? I have to admit, I don’t. I would say, “It seems silly – who’s going to read my note? I’m literally writing it for the universe to hear.”
But what I have learned over the years, after reading about many many famous people. There are no overnight success stories. Each of them has spent time grinding it out over the years. They just kept doing things the right way (in obscurity) and eventually found success. And they are probably the people that floss their teeth, exercise before work, don’t check their phones the second they wake up and practice some mindfulness. I don’t think anyone is perfect – but these people are simply used to doing the things that successful people do – even when no one is watching and when there isn’t a deadline attached.
And in my book, if I want to raise a well behaved 10 year old (or 12 or 15 or whatever), then I have to start doing the right things now and not tell myself that I’ll do them right later. We need to be consistent with our kids. So if your New Years Resolution is to give your kids less screen time, then that means even when your kid is in the doctor’s office with you – and he’s already used up his daily 45 minutes – then no screen time. You can’t cheat. But here’s the help. Here’s the parenting hack. Instead of relying on willpower for these types of New Years resolutions I think this phrase works so well – The phrase is “People like us, do things like this”. (CREDIT: Seth Godin) So if you really believe in your goal. And that’s key; say, “people like us, do things like this”. In this case: People who raise creative children – do things like limit their kids screen time.
Apply this phrase to your New Years Resolution and I wish you the best 2019. Keep this podcast on your list too, and we’ll be sure to help you out on the daily.