This week we started in to the 5 factors of personality. Do you remember part 4 from yesterday? Correct. Agreeableness. That being compassionate and cooperative rather than suspicious and antagonistic towards others.
Agreeableness is a goal. Everyone must get along in the real world. Except for one of my current customers, he’s trying to suck out every last ounce from our business, all for his gain, and that makes me hate my job. Working with people who are all in it for themselves – don’t get the most out of people.
But part 5 is about Neuroticism.
A scary word honestly. That balance between (sensitive/nervous vs. secure/confident).
It should be clear by now that I am to help you raise secure children.
We talk about developing confidence. We try to give examples how you push your children to do things on their own. We talk about how ‘kids are what they think you think they are’.
It all goes back to doing it for themselves. And at times learning from their mistakes.
Neuroticism: The tendency to experience unpleasant emotions easily, such as anger, anxiety, depression, and vulnerability
Family life and the way someone was raised will also affect these traits. Twin studies and other research have shown that about half of the variation between individuals results from their genetics and half from their environments.
So conscientiousness, extraversion, openness to experience, agreeableness and neuroticism are the 5 factors of your child.
Learn them, test them, push your kids to do more and be there for support. But love whoever they are and make sure you tell them that.