Yesterday we started in to the 5 factors of personality. Do you remember part 1? Correct. Openness.
Do you remember which facet of openness (more or less) you should drive your kid to become?
Correct – there is no right answer. While we want to mold minds, we also need to understand and love who they are. Start with that, and use these to guide you on the parenting path.
It is important to note that each of the five personality factors represents a range between two extremes. For example, extraversion represents a continuum between extreme extraversion and extreme introversion. In the real world, most people lie somewhere in between the two polar ends of each dimension.
So what’s number 2?
Conscientiousness (efficient/organized vs. easy-going/careless).
To all the highly organized, always on time to their well prepared schedules – this will be a hard sell to raise an easy going, “Type B”.
This is the tendency to be organized and dependable, show self-discipline, act dutifully, aim for achievement, and prefer planned rather than spontaneous behavior. High conscientiousness is often perceived as being stubborn and focused. Low conscientiousness is associated with flexibility and spontaneity, but can also appear as sloppiness and lack of reliability.
I think it’s fair to try and raise conscientious kids. Kids who show self-discipline, act dutifully, and aim for achievement is a pretty universal goal. And we here try to help with that with our daily lessons. But understand your kid too. They may just feel a little more spontaneity than you and I do, and that can be allowed too.